I have lots of thoughts here, actually.
First I don't see that spell getting you an apology, just submissive behaviour hence forth. Her breaking ties with you might be a manifestation of success. You now intimidate her and she's avoiding you without knowing why.
I'm very much impressed with the technique, and between you and me and everyone else here, you threw so much energy into it that it's leaking off the post you wrote about it. Good show.
However, the spotty results may be a matter of motive. You were obviously extremely emotional at the time, and thereby contributed a huge force to the spell, but it was also unfocused. That seems like a lot of trouble to go to over someone being rude, and I question whether or not you knew what you wanted.
What you seem to have achieved is removing her from your life, and freeing yourself of attachments to her or your negative feelings toward her, which is a victory, and a more noble goal... Not that I really care (being no paragon of virtue) whether or not you have a noble goal, but I think maybe you do.
If you still want that apology, you're going to need to do more work with the doll. Don't repeat anything you've done, you've got obedience and all that, which will make the effect of the next phase stronger. Repeating yourself now would be like pounding on the keyboard because the computer is too slow... Not helping. Select an herb associated with contrition, and maybe a bit of Slippery Elm bark, and anoint with that, and whatever other symbols you want to use, and make sure your intent is more focused this time. Writing it would probably help.
If you're done and just want not to deal with her anymore, bury it, but away from your property and preferably not anywhere you go often. A graveyard, or even her yard would be appropriate.
if you're having second thoughts and want to end the spell forthwith, remove the picture, tell the doll out loud that it is no longer what's-her-name, and for good measure use an athame or similar tool to cut the cord connecting it to her. Then dismantle it and burn or bury the pieces. As Eugene says the last step is only necessary if it's necessary. I lean toward Caliban's method and while I suppose I could do it the other way, it just isn't my style.
May you find what you seek,
Edited by Alice, 22 March 2012 - 11:32 PM.